Think about all the times when you really cared about something which, in the end, did not work out. Whether it was project, an event, or a relationship, I am sure that it took you lots of mental energy to deal with it. Maybe you did all you could to make it work but ended up failing.
Now, how did you feel when it all went wrong – when all that you feared, ended up happening (and possibly worse)?
Could it have been less disappointing if you had not involved your emotions in the whole thing?
Yes, very likely.
When I tell people to invest little emotion in their projects or whatever else they do, the majority of them tell me that it is easy to just say that. And, quite frankly, I understand.
As humans we are hard-wired to care. At an early age, our minds are conditioned to convince us that our lives depend on each and every decision we make. This is a survival mechanism. It is a great mechanism but very often it will be a burden for you, as you strive for personal freedom. Very often, you will find yourself anxious about an upcoming deadline, a project, and so on.
So how does one exit this cycle of endless anxiety?
The answer is simple:
You let go of all emotion or attachment you have about the thing or idea that you are seeking. That being said, just doing this will not be enough because in order to truly let go of the attachment, you need to be O.K with losing the thing or the idea that you are looking for.
In other words you must chose that, from now on, you will:
Allow failure to come to you.